Needing Some Comment Advice After My Advice On Comments

Are you confused? Well, now you know how I feel.

Seriously. I’m a nice kid. I try always to play nicely. I try to be fair. I try to be kind, even when I disagree with you. But there are some comments on my blog that I just don’t get and I’m not sure how to handle.

WordPress has a nifty little feature where if you haven’t commented on my blog before I get to approve of your first comment. You don’t know how many times I struggle with “approving” someone or not. First of all, as judgemental as I try not to be (Quit rolling your eyes – I said I try not to be. I didn’t say I never judge.), approving someone’s comment feels….well…..judgemental.

What to do? What to do?

For example:

a) There are the comments that obviously, obviously, so very, very, obviously come from someone who barely skimmed my post. They read the title, assumed what it was about and leftΒ  a vague, not even helpful comment. You know what they say about ass-u-me?

OR

b) There are the comments by people who obviously read what I wrote but write such a flaming, almost nasty retort I’m afraid they might hunt me down and kill me in my sleep if I don’t press “approve.”

OR

c) There are the comments that feel like spam, read like spam, walk and talk like spam. But when I visit the blog they came from? Not spam. Real live blogs, written by real live people that…well, write like spam.

So, I’m curious. How do you handle questionable comments?

(Oops. There I go again. Asking questions that (hopefully? fingers crossed?) invite lots and lots of comments.

Shameful.

That’s what I am.

And proud of it!)

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26 responses to “Needing Some Comment Advice After My Advice On Comments

  1. Though I’m always glad to see evidence of a new reader…the comments I get are pretty normal and nice. And yes, once in awhile I get a comment that seems like a person and turns out to be spam…but not often. Sometimes I wonder if I’m deleting spam that is really a person…but I don’t go read all the spam comments so…oh well. I do follow a rule that if it doesn’t fall into my spam bucket and I can determine it’s a real person, then it gets published regardless of how it makes me feel personally. I guess there’s that freedom of speech thing going on in the back of my head.

  2. Steven Harris

    I sort of admire that ‘spam-speak’. At first glance it seems to be saying something interesting and even potentially meaningful. And then the syntax just swirls around and I realise I’ve nearly been taken in again.Darn and double darn them, can;t they go to the land of spam and talk to each other instead of using up precious eye time? πŸ˜€

  3. I’ve never had a suspicious comment!?!

  4. I get a very low number of comments. I believe that because I approve all comments before they appear, a lot of people just don’t comment … only the people that really have something to say take the time.
    I have only not approved a handful of comments. It is my blog, it represents me and who I am … if people want to disagree, provide their thoughts or more information … great. If the comments are strange, don’t further the conversation that I was trying to start, or are blatantly advertising something … I don’t think that they belong in my “blogging home”. Haven’t we all worked hard to create a personal place in the blogging world?

  5. Interesting post. Peanuts rock. One place, apparently, where inflation has no power at all. I want to live there.

    Um, wait. That wasn’t the point of your post? Just this once I went past the picture and read some of the words that cluttered around it. πŸ™‚

    I’m probably guilty of example #A from time to time. I guess it depends on what tickles me and prompts me to write. It might be something tangential. Imagine a post about something important with a title like, “Let sleeping dogs lie” that has absolutely nothing to do with dogs. I’ll be there to comment, “I don’t like dogs.”

    I can’t imagine you generating flames. I tried but I really can’t. Sorry but it doesn’t fit the paradigm. πŸ™‚ I can’t related because it just doesn’t happen to me and I deserve it most of the time. Really.

    I agree about the spam. Some comments are really hard to evaluate. I don’t want to let any spam get through, but I would never want to disallow a comment from a real live blog visitor – hearing from them is the very reason I blog. It is quite the quandary and yet another reason to hate the evil spammers.

    • “I can’t imagine you generating flames.” – You have NO idea! And as mean as they have been, I still feel guilty deleting them. What is wrong with me?

      • Jayne

        Nothing m’dear. I suspect you just prefer that people to play nicely around here. Flamers and trolls not welcome.
        As for the folks who write like spam but who apparently have websites? I haven’t had any of those. I do sometimes get sensible comments but then when I go check out their website it’s selling something like mini-fridges. Those I delete. If you think your spamaloids are real people who just have a terminally dull take on life, I personally would give them the befefit of the doubt and publish. After all, not everyone can be as scintillating as we are. πŸ™‚

  6. Your blog is your blog, Jane…you have final say over what appears!

    I’m coming up on the end of my first year of blogging…I’ve only deleted two inflammatory comments (racist or just mean) in the last ten months. As to those who leave “dumb” comments: they’re the people who look like idiots, not you!

    Keep doing what you do…you have lots of loyal readers!

    Wendy

  7. You write nice. I too like cartoons. Come see pictures too on my website!

    πŸ˜€ Sorry. I couldn’t resist. I’ve just never spammed anyone before.

    I have had a few skimmers, but they’re usually very polite commenters, so no complaint. I’m just happy people read me! See, the problem here, Jane, is that you’re too darn popular for your own good. Your blog gets seen and sometimes even read by hundreds. The secret to my commenting success is that very few people bother with my drivel. See how it works? Fewer readers: fewer inane comments. My 4 loyal readers are also in depth commenters. It feels good to hear from each of these “friends” at each post. So it’s kind of your own fault, my dear girl, for being so witty and in-depth and popular and having even freshly pressed material on your blog.

    Does that help? πŸ˜‰

    Oh, and to answer your question, I just have all comments posted automatically, and so far nobody’s said anything pornographic or spammable. I did have ONE personal attack once, and I took that comment down, but only because she identified herself and I figured even that little b…rat didn’t need to advertise her foolishness. Heart of gold here, right?

    • Oh my goodness, you crack me up! And no pornographic spam? You’ve got to be kidding me! I have no idea what post generated the bombardment of “nude celebrity photo” spam I’ve been getting lately. Five to ten a day!

  8. I believe that you should be true to the spirit of your blog. I haven’t read anything crass or mean here (although it might have eluded me), but this isn’t a blog for CNN or MSNBC, and the comments should reflet that tone.

    If someone comments in ways that are offensive to me, or the readers, I wouldn’t publish it. Would you invite someone back into your physical house that has been mean beacuse you’re concerned about their freedom of speech? I agree that everyone has every right to express themselves, but it doesn’t mean that I’m going to invite them back over.

    The same with a blog in my opinion.

  9. I depend on Akismet to take care of the spam. I didn’t know what the heck that was until I read it in a wordpress blog this week. I’ve never looked to see what had been captured there though.

    Occasionally I have Comments from one reader that I find squirrely. I allow them, but hope that my readers don’t find their way to his blog–I don’t want the association!

  10. unabridgedgirl

    Blogs that read and write like spam, I love that! Hahaha. I laughed for about three minutes. I won’t approve anything I think is really negative and a plain attack, not just an opinion. It’s my blog, so I can do what I want! πŸ™‚ Remember that – this your space, your “home” and you should be able to do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

  11. Carol

    I’m there with Unabridged Girl and MTFFH – it’s your house, you choose who’s invited in. I think there’s an advantage to not having many readers, thus even fewer commenters. And Akismet handles the spam thing just fine. I do go in daily and delete it, occasionally reading one or two. Some are quite funny!

  12. Jayne

    (I just re-read my comment above and realise that with the errors and typos I sound almost drunk. Maybe I’m not so scintillating after all. Delete me and be done with me)!

  13. It’s your blog and you can do what you want to. But given what I’ve learned about you through this blog, I bet you will be nice.
    I love what you said about blogs reading like spam… funny funny.

  14. And that is exactly why I moderate every comment. For awhile, I used the “once approved you’re okay” approach, but that’s not always a good thing. And spam filters don’t always block things out properly. (I had one slip through about “cool blog, Man, if only I hadn’t had this baked potato explode in my hand and burn me” or some such nonsense, which was of course from a crap site.

    I figure it’s like home. We welcome those who wipe their feet and are graciously enjoying the conversation.

    (I also correct spelling errors and punctuation problems for those who type too fast (as I do) and can’t correct them themselves. I’m a nice hostess chez moi.)

    Now. About your rates. 5cents? You need to add a few zeroes.

  15. Interesting. I’ve never gotten stuff that looks like spam but isn’t. A couple of times something has gone into my spam folder by accident, but that’s the extent of it.

    About the flaming comments… Well, I’d approve them only so that others who comment can disagree and show you that there are more people who enjoy what you write than not!

    And the people who almost don’t read at all? They’re comment-fishers themselves, I should think, and I’d approve them too, if only to up your comment number πŸ˜› Hehehe, I love your shamelessness :D.

  16. I’ve been very lucky on Joey’s pad and had very few weird comments. When I have, I tend to just ignore them and not react at all. If they are offensive I just delete them.

  17. jterrill

    Ok, truth time..my comments are so few and far between that I look forward to spam…I will even approve a comment that wordpress has tagged as spam if it remotely resembles a “real person” comment.
    On another note, just today I have had been visited over 24 times by the same “referrer” and this “person” appears to have visited the same post each time. Now whats that all about? Anyone have an idea?

  18. I never really get any questionable comments. I mean, not of a kind that I myself would question. Maybe I’m not pissing off the right people, but most people who leave a comment on my site are simply doing so because either A. they’re actually interested in the content of the article, or B. I left a comment on their site and they’re reciprocating, or C. they just want to see what type of crazy ass response I’m going to leave in reply (because I typically try to provide some kind of witty response on those days where I’ve had a good amount of coffee).

    As a result, I’ve never had to deal with this issue. My site is set to approve all comments, and I’ve never deleted one, except for in the case of one guy who kept posting links to some sales site or something like that. Akismet usually catches these assholes, but every once in a while one of them will slip through and I’ll have to clean up the mess. It’s been over a year since I’ve had to do that, so I’ve been grateful.

    But, judging from the look of this blog, I can see where you may get quite a few replies and have to screen them. It’s an interesting dilemma. Personally, I’d rather spend my time playing video games. I guess that’s why I never actually post anything of interest!

    πŸ™‚

  19. Amy

    I’ve never really had any negative comments. My blog doesn’t deal with many controversial issues though. If I did get negative comments, I would probably make fun of them and tell them to chill out (that’s like poking a tiger, but I live on the edge).
    Sometimes I even approve spam if it makes me laugh.

  20. I wrestled a bit with whether or not I should take the option of approving comments before publishing. I decided not to. I figure people should have the freedom to say what they want whether I like it or not. I always have the option of removing a comment if it is vile or distasteful — and the only two comments I have removed was some sort of porno spam.

  21. LOL. You mean random comments like that that probably means people did not take time out to read the nuances in it? πŸ˜‰

    This is why I am grateful for people who allow email subscription: it is really a lot easier for me to read the posts, esp. the long ones, carefully in my email inbox. I am at work: it’s a lot easier to pretend I am working while reading an email than reading a BLOG. πŸ˜‰

  22. MN in my Rearview Mirror

    Your blog is your sanctuary, well I know mine is anyway. I actually put it in my about section that I don’t mind contrary opinions but if anyone writes something judgmental I’m deleting it. If they really disagree with me they can go blog about it πŸ˜‰

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