The last week of going out of my way to be kind. It was easy and it was a challenge. I found that I tend to do a lot of typically “kind” acts all the time. But going out of my way to make sure I do one act daily?
Day 15 – At Target today, an extremely frazzled mother was trying to keep her cool. With two toddlers in tow, one was being an angel. The other? Was not. She was struggling. People were staring. I found myself getting annoyed with the incessant whining and screaming. But she remained calm and firm the entire time. I glanced over to her a few times and I could see it in her eyes she was losing a bit of confidence. I walked over to her and told her I could see she was having a rough time but she was handling it so well. That I knew it was tough to be firm, especially with this age, but she was doing all the right things. She started to tear up and so did I. We hugged. It’s so hard to be a good mom. Don’t I know it.
Day 16 – Sent out some snail mail. To: my daughter, a Blog World friend, my sister and an out of town friend. Boy, I sure love me some good, old fashioned snail mail.
Day 17 -Made a homemade onion dip (you’ll never buy store bought again!) and put together a little basket of crackers and veggies and dip for our empty nester neighbors across the street. I don’t know if they practice a cocktail hour but at least they have a snack if they do!
Day 18 – Called my aunt. I know what you’re thinking. Jane’s a lazy cheater, trying to use a call to family as a “kind act.” But this particular relative pushes my buttons like no other. So, I pushed myself out of my comfort zone to call “just because” instead of having a reason. Don’t judge.
Day 19 – Left a $5 bill in the tip jar at the drive through at Starbucks. The catch? I skipped ordering coffee. There was no line (shocker!) so I just drove through and put some money in. Felt weird and fun, all at the same time.
Day 20 – Let someone cut in front of me at the grocery store. They had two items, I had half a cart. This “kind deed” was not a stretch at all for me but I quite honestly forgot all about this project until I was racing into the store to grab some things for dinner. How could I forget? I’m almost done.
Day 21 – Another letter writing day. I wrote a glowing letter to the boss of the favorite yoga instructor I told you about here. May she receive a hefty raise.
There you have it. Three weeks of going out of my way to be kind-er. I realized that I already do quite a few things, on a regular basis, that is considered kind by most. I was astonished by some of the “kindness reports” that were shared on the 21 Day Kindness Challenge website. Both in a good way and not-so-good way. But more on that later.
Suffice it to say, my Kindness spilleth over. It was a rewarding experience. It was a challenging experience. It was worth all of my time and effort. It was a challenge to be creative. But that just made it all the more fun.
And the beautiful thing? It IS now a more conscience habit.
8 responses to “The Kindness Habit. It Worked!”
But I bet all the nice things you do during the day make this list pale in comparison.
I’ve been practising but in small ways – letting people go in front at the supermarket, going out of my way to give someone a lift to rehearsals and home and not rising to the bait with my mother. The last is more a kindness to myself lol!!
This is inspiring, Jane! I love hearing about all of your acts of kindess.
I bet you get almost as much back in “good feelings” as the person you are being kind to gets. That was terrible English, but you know what I mean I hope.
Good for you.
You did great! I found it hard and then I let it lapse….which is so me…I mean well and dont finish. I guess I could do an act of kindness to myself by forgiving myself….right?
Day 15 brought tears to my eyes. What an inspiration you are to someone like me. I like to think I am kind, but what you did for that young mother made a difference in her life that day. You gave her sympathy and confidence.
Every day you intentionally showed someone kindness brightened another’s person’s life. Bravo Jane. What you did is sort of like having a super hero power 🙂
Good for you and good for the world!