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Top 10 Reasons Why I Hate Western Medicine

10. It’s a necessary evil sometimes. My husband practices Tradition Chinese Medicine (TCM). He is amazing at what he does. Why is he so amazing? He’s just THAT good. BUT, he also recognizes when Western medicine is necessary. I was raised in a Western medicine family. It’s all I knew until I met my husband. I have a love/hate relationship with Western medicine. I call it a necessary evil  because of the following….

9. My appointment is the first one of the day and I still have to wait 40+ minutes before anyone sees me. Overbooking is rude. I know you have no-call-no-shows. I realize that emergencies arise. But when I wait that long. Every. Single. Time.  My time is valuable, too. It’s annoying. It’s more than annoying; it’s expensive.  And my sitter doesn’t appreciate it, either.

8. I’m just following doctor’s orders. Don’t shoot the messenger. I needed to drop off lab results that I’d had a few weeks ago. The doctor told me to come in the next day. She told me the time to be there; when  she first arrives in the morning. She wanted to take a look at the previous results and see if other tests needed to be ordered. Plus, she wanted to see how I was doing on my new meds. (I wasn’t doing well.) So, I asked to have a minute to speak to her. Nope. I got the eye roll from the front desk and was told to fill in a “Patient Walk In” form and she would call me later. She has a very busy schedule. (What was I thinking?)

7. It was the lab tech’s idea. I promise!  When the lab tech saw what I had written about the side effects I was experiencing she offered to see if my doctor had a minute to speak with me. The nurse came in and snipped, “If you need to speak with a doctor, you’ll need to make an appointment for sometime today. And we can’t guarantee you’ll be able to see Dr. X but we’ll make sure you see someone.” I told her to forget it. If Dr. X had time to call me, I’m sure we can handle it over the phone. Sheeesh.

6. Fox News on the waiting room TV. (Need I say more?)

5. They refuse to call you by the right name. If they could give you a number, they would. My son’s name is four names long. First name. Second name. Third name (his Korean given name) and last name. We go by second name. It’s a family tradition. Plus, it alerts you to when telemarketers are calling. When you fill out the medical forms, they want the child’s legal name. No matter how many times I circle his second name or tell the front desk what he likes to be called they insist on calling over the loud-speaker “James Lastname to room #2.” Who the heck is James? Oh, yeah. That’s us.

4. The doctor will be with you in a moment – but first, how are you going to pay for this? I know it’s their job. And there is nothing wrong for getting paid for doing good work. But I hate how the front desk accost me every time to make sure my insurance is up to date and the forms I have to sign every, single time stating I’ll pay them if insurance doesn’t. Money first, healing second.

3. The germs. Everywhere. I’m a bit of a germaphobe. I cringe thinking about all the dirty door knobs, armrests, magazines. You know, the stuff they probably don’t sterilize. Ewwww.

2. Everyone loves an instant fix. It’s what you do best. But what about the fact that I’m also not sleeping or crave sweets or am overly sensitive to smells. Western medicine tends to look at individual symptoms and not the whole person to see what might be related. And then they treat each individual symptom, cluttering up your medicine cabinet. TCM considers the whole. I love that.

And the #1 reason I hate Western medicine….

1. The cost. It’s huge. It’s gigantic. For me. For all of us. But for that, I fear we have insurance, malpractice and lawsuits to blame. I’m not going to pin that one on the doctors. Well, not all of them, anyway.


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Why Can’t I Let It Be?

I am feeling so stressed right now. To distract myself I tried and tried to think of a happy song for today’s post but I couldn’t. I married a control freak, a lovable  control freak, but a control freak, nonetheless. It’s been a beautiful union for us because it has taught me to let go of some of my control freak tendencies. I’ve had to, in order to maintain peace. And I’ve learned to let go of many, many things. But my children’s health? I can’t seem to let it be.  

“When I find myself in times of trouble
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be” – I am about to be blasted by many of you out there but I confess. I broke down (after watching 60 minutes Sunday night) and had my kids vaccinated for H1N1. Me. I can’t believe it. I am one of the most cautious people out there when it comes to vaccines. We have vaccinated our kids on most things but never more than one at a time. Their first years in this life have been spent at the doctor’s office every couple months getting a shot because we spread them out. But my husband (who typically says NO to most vaccines) even got one. He’s in health care, and no, he wasn’t required to but he chose to. And then he puts it all on me and says, “Go ahead and vaccinate the kids if you want to.”

“Whisper words of wisdom” – Are you kidding me? If I want to? He knows I wrestle with the regular flu vaccine every year since having children. He’s always against it. I’m teetering the line. Staying up on the internet. Researching. Deliberating. Talking to anyone who’ll listen, anyone who has an opinion, anyone who might be in the know. I always end up agreeing with him but I still sit on pins and needles the entire flu season, wondering if I made the right decision.

“And when the broken-hearted people
Living in the world agree” – Have you caught on yet that I worry endlessly about health? I’m not much of a worrier in other areas. I’m not afraid to fly or drive a car. I pooh-pooh most pain when it comes to me. My husband knows something is really wrong if I’m popping herbs or motrin. But since my kids have been born? If we could, realistically and happily, live in a protective bubble I know I’d sleep a lot better at night. I can control what kind of food they put in their bellies – most of the time. I can control whether they wear a helmet while riding a bike or if they can have a motorized scooter (no). But I can’t control when and if they’ll catch a cold. And, God forbid, something more serious.

“There will be an answer, let it be” – And truth be told, I’m a horrible nurse. Horrible. We don’t have any serious illness in our family but my middle child was a high fever baby and toddler. I’m talking 105, 106 routinely when he’d get a cold. We’ve been to the emergency room a number of times for it and it’s scary every time. My fear and anxiety translates to anger with my kids. More than once they’ve asked  me, “Mommy? Are you mad at me for being sick?” It breaks my heart. And I feel terrible that they feel that way. And I try my darndest to hide my fear and many times it works. But bottom line? I have no control over how much they’ll suffer or when they’ll begin to feel better and it drives me crazy. I want a magic wand to take it all away.

“Yeah, There will be an answer, let it be” – So I researched. And I weighed every study I could find. And I sifted through the (shady) statistics. For example, one 60 Minutes an “expert” said that 1% of all people who contract H1N1 will die. I found online that the latest estimate is that 63% of the U.S. population will contract H1N1. So that means, in the subdivision I live in (we have about 400 homes); if 3 people live in each house that means 756 people are going to contract H1N1. So 7 1/2 of my neighbors are going to die?  C’mon. But what frustrated me to no end was if you were schooled in Western medicine it was “vaccine good” and if you were schooled in non-traditional medicine it was “vaccine bad.” No middle ground. No reasonable, balanced information out there. It was my pediatrician who pushed me over the edge. She is well aware of how we feel about typical “modern” medicine. But she said, in all her years of practice, she’s never seen something hit normal, healthy children this hard. My kids are normal and healthy. I bit the bullet and got them the vaccine.

“And when the night is cloudy,
There is still a light that shines on me” – And while I should feel relieved, I don’t. I’m still worrying. And it didn’t help that my 17 yr. old daughter told me I was endangering her because her science teacher just showed them a YouTube video of some cheerleader that now can’t walk or talk right because of a flu vaccine she had. Crap.

“I wake up to the sound of music
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be” – I need to let this go. I did it. My kids have the preservative-free, live vaccines coursing through their tiny systems. I should now be able to relax and let it be. Then why is my stomach still in knots?

Update: 2 out of 3 children are fine after having the vaccine. But it appears my middle child (my sweet ‘high fever’ boy) has had a reaction. High fever (104.1) and body aches, dizziness and pain. The leg pain is what is concerning the doctor now. We’re medicating and watching him closely. Just putting this out there so that any of you can be extra mindful of side effect you or your children might have….and to shake a finger at myself to say “I told you so!” I’ll keep you posted.

Update #2: After the fever went up to 105.7 while medicated and the disorientation set in we went back to the doctor’s office for tests. It is NOT a reaction to the swine flu vaccine and it is not some other flu. Just a nasty bug and he is reacting the way he did as a toddler. It just  coincidentally presented itself at the same time that my son received the H1N1 vaccine. And I’m relieved (as scary as this is) because I’ve been through this before with him and he always comes out ok. We just do lots of fluids, rest and medicate the fever to keep it below 103. But I WILL say this – In the doctor’s office I had to fill out a form and answer some questions. I always leave questions blank that I don’t know for certain – plus I love to mess with Western Medicine one-size-fits-all assembly line approach. One thing it asked was if my children had a fever and further stated that the vaccine would not be given to them if they had one. I left that question blank because I had no idea. They seemed fine to me. The nurse asked me if they had a fever and I told her: I don’t typically take their temps if they appear healthy. She looked them over and then gave them the vaccine. I have a feeling this illness may have been caught if she had taken #1son’s temp. Word of advice: Take the temps of your children yourself before you get the vaccine.  


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